I am a big fan of TED Talks, and if you're not familiar with them, they may be something that you'll want to explore. The approximately 15 minute "talk" that I posted, although not specifically social studies related, deals with something that I'm sure all of us can relate to in some way, shape or form. I thought it would generate some interesting discussion so please feel free to contribute with your insights, experiences, and perhaps lessons learned. As always, be thoughtful and absolutely respectful.
This video really was great, I think its a simple and eye-opening way to address an issue that I feel everyone suffers from, at least to some degree. It's really inspiring to see that something so small, like a self help game could really turn into this magnificent platform for Jia and turn into to something really positive that ended up helping a ton of people. In a way, Jia really did get his dream of success and although he may not be Bill Gates, I feel like what he's doing is critical in this society where we typically get in our own heads for every little thing that we do. Personally, rejection is a big fear for me, as it probably is for many others and this video kind of inspired me to take a step forward and try not to run away when things get hard. Rejection is everywhere and it's inevitable, whether it's something like getting rejected from a college or just simply being told no, you have to learn to keep trying and make the best of it. No is never the end to something and in fact, most times it's the beginning. Also, after seeing this it kind of inspired me to look it up and maybe actually do this sort of rejection challenge/self help game, it seems like it could be really fun. Maybe I'll start by asking for a 100 as an AP grade this quarter? :)
A small project Jia's teacher did with her 6 year old students sparked something Jia thought as a negative, but ironically turned out to be the best situation in his life. Throughout our lives, a man vs. self battle is always something we have to deal with and somehow try to overcome. In this case, rejection is definitely something I feel everyone struggles from, no matter how successful or talented they may be. Whether you may admit it or not, the feeling of someone turning you down and dismissing your ideas is something we all dread to encounter, and we may even go to the extent of avoiding opportunities given to us in order not to feel rejection. Jia's idea of his 100 days of rejection project is really inspiring. It is true that initially, as he stated, when people are rejected, they run and are humiliated. No one likes the feeling of being turned down; the dreaded "no" is something that easily could crush our desires and dreams. However, instead of being knocked down, Jia decided to go out there and learn many 'secrets' and 'tips' to avoid the situation of rejection, and turn it into something beneficial. Learning that asking "why?" could enable us to understand the reason people say no, instead of assuming your own ideas, and maybe even turn a no into a yes. Jia is now teaching as many people he can that a "no" isn't supposed to be a wall put up in front of you, but instead an opportunity to learn that the opportunity after rejection given to you is something to embrace. The people who turn rejection into opportunities and embrace the fear, can turn into a huge gift in the long run. Personally, I struggle with rejection on a daily basis. As everyone else I assume, struggling to be the best you can be is hard when sometimes what you want isn't always given to you. However, Jia has inspired me to realize that rejection is just inevitable, and working with it instead of doing things around it will really enable success in each and every one of us.
This TED talks video was very insightful and can be a relatable topic to many, in my opinion. Jia Jiang effectively spoke about the challenges that the fear of rejection causes. In my personal life, rejection plays a big role in the actions that I do. A lot of times, fear of being rejected causes me to miss out on opportunities that are small, but could potentially lead to a life changing experience. Whether it's something as small as talking to a person who I've never spoke to before, or applying to a program that i may not be accepted in to, the fear of rejection is still apparent in my head. I feel that many individuals struggle with this. We live in a world that is built on competition. People are constantly competing against one another to be the best and to be better than others. Although this can be a good thing because it let's people have goals that they can strive for, it also causes self doubt. This can be seen in the example that Jia Jiang used when he spoke about wanting to build a more successful company than Bill Gates. The fear of rejection stops people from achieving what they want and decreases their potential to be the best that they can be. This 100 days of rejection program was very eye opening to me. It showed me that because we live in a world built on competition, rejection will always be apparent. If you go in to a situation knowing that rejection may occur, you’ll be prepared to stay instead of running away. Although this is certainly not an easy task to fulfill, “practice” with rejection can lead to the achievement of amazing things. Thank you for sharing this video with us and hopefully I’ll keep this message in the back of my mind moving forwards.
Jia Jiang showed that anyone can create opportunity for rejection. Normally when getting rejected a person will take off running out of fear or hurt, but Mr. Jiang shows that by standing your ground and to continue to engage the rejector anything is possible whether its planting a flower or getting a box of olympic ring doughnuts. A problem in society is that everyone experiences self-doubt, that has been created from problems at a young age, in Jia Jiang's case it was not being complimented by his peers. It's the fear of being told no and that crushing weight of rejection that prevents people from living a full and happy life."The world ain’t all sunshine and rainbows. It’s a very mean and nasty place. And I don’t care how tough you are. It will beat you to your knees and keep you permanently there if you let it”
“You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life, but it ain’t about how hard you hit, it’s about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward, how much you can take and keep moving forward"- Rocky Balboa. It's that human nature and the ability to persevere that creates success in people. Rejection is necessary it will always be a thing because not everything can go anyone's way if that rang true then history would be a lot different, it's what you do after rejection that defines you, do you let the 6 year old win? or do you let you 14 year old win? To be weak and crumble or to stay strong and reinforce. That's what will define you.
Well, this video was definitely an eye-opener for me. I can relate to Jia's initial fear of rejection because I too constantly obsess over how people would respond if I ask for something. I guess it's because I've always worried about other people's opinions about me, even though I know none of it really matters. I feel the need to be accepted and liked by everyone whether it be a peer or a complete stranger. Furthermore, I think I interpret rejection as failure; a sign that I should just quit what I'm doing and give up on my goals. But this video has taught me that that's not the case at all. Rejection comes every day, in all shapes and sizes. Some more than others bring you down and make you want to give up on whatever you want to achieve. But, according to Jia, running away is definitely not the answer. What stands out to me most is his revelation that if we stick around and ask "why" we have a chance of turning "no" into "yes" and if that doesn't happen, we can understand the reason for the rejection and learn from it. Thus, there is usually nothing to be afraid of when pursuing something. We are bound to get rejected sometimes and that shouldn't stop us from striving for things. It may not be that someone has something against you or thinks you're incompetent. Maybe their dog is just allergic to flowers.
I must admit, this TED talk is very intriguing, as I find many of them to be the same. The concept of rejection is something we all have to endure in one way or another. And the way Jia dealt with it is something we should all incorporate into our lives. The idea of desensitizing oneself to rejection is the key to living a successful life. I hear from so many people talking about what they'd like to do. But instead of reaching for those dreams, they stay away from those dreams because of the fear of failure or rejection. I think we all do this. Once we remove this illogical feeling of the fear of rejection we become more socially aware and learn little wording tricks that go a long way, just like Jia. And from there, you become a happier person, rather than swimming in an endless sea of regrets. And the last thing I want (and the last thing many of us want) is to be at the end of our life, having not accomplished what we have wanted dearly because of our fear of rejection. To put it simply, it's either you overcome your own fears and live happily or dont, and live with regret because you let the old primitive fear of rejection control you.
Rejection is more or less something that everyone has to face in their lifetime. With this in mind, I think this video is very informative. Jia discusses a self help game that involves mundane tasks that would not only help overcome a fear of rejection but also enable people to explain their question in order to get a 'yes' response. It mainly teaches that perseverance is necessary to have success in what you want to achieve. For example, when Jia was trying to get a teaching job at the University of Texas, he kept asking again and again about teaching a college class. This showed the professor that Jia had perseverance and drive that would allow him to do well teaching classes. This TED Talk also discusses the importance of asking 'why'. Even in everyday scenarios where you have been rejected, asking why can lead to an opportunity to negotiate the persons answer or just to clarify why. As Jia said, I do believe that rejection doesn't always have to be negative and can be helpful with future interactions.
This TED talk was extremely useful as well as relatable topic for everyone. The fear of rejection stops many people from accomplishing their dreams and takes part in nearly everyones daily life. Jia's speech was extremely inspirational and showed how we can overcome the fear of rejection. The feeling of self doubt often stops us from trying new opportunities in life such as joining different teams or programs but by following the same challenge he did, we are able to overcome it. Instead of running away from these interactions, we have to ask why. By asking why, Jia found out why he was told no and he now see their point of view. His 100 Day challenge allowed for him to gradually overcome his fear, starting with small events with a single person, to going as far as to teach a college class for a lesson. I believe this speech was very moving and will inspire many to go out and try this for themselves.
I surprisingly enough, came to enjoy this video and the thought-provoking questions that came with it. "How does he make this seem so easy and efficient?" "Why haven't I started to apply this to my daily life?" It's certainly comforting to see that even an a foreign entrepreneur who has worked and strived for such a successful company and image has such mundane challenges like "How do I deal with my fear of rejection?" It really gives a new perspective and motivation to common people like myself struggling with the same type of doubts and worries. Rejection, no matter how miniscule or life-changing, is unavoidable. It's an essential part of human life and shows us that not everything will comply with our own needs. But little "self challenges" such as the rejection plan that Jia chose to follow can have an enormous impact on our daily lives and teach us how to cope with our own insecurities. While not as involved as Jia was in his plan, I plan to at least attempt to participate in this rejection experiment to see what kind of impact it could have on the world around me and how I interact with it.
Everyone undergoes rejection in their lives, some more than others. It is unescapable. At the beginning of the video, Jia described the fear of rejection that he had experienced since childhood and how it held him back from pursuing his dreams and ambitions. That fear of rejection prevented him from achieving his full potential. Looking at a figure that he had mentioned multiple times, Bill Gates, I see a man who didn't let rejection determine the path he was going to take in his life. That was a major reason as to why he's as successful as he is. He takes his dreams and confidently runs with them, taking rejection and creating opportunities from it. I think it's so important for people my age to be ambitious and understand that our greatest adversary is often ourselves. Many of my peers, including myself, have goals and plans already figured out. Whether it be for college, or even career paths, we have ideas of what we want our lives to consist of. These dreams are often big and ambitious. It is so important, especially at this time in our lives, that we not let rejection be our enemies. Much like Jia, we need to learn that rejection could be very beneficial if we look at it with the right frame of mind. We need to understand how to take the negative connotation associated with rejection and turn it into a positive. Jia demonstrates that by not running from rejection, and instead asking "why", he was able to take that fear and turn it into opportunity for success. Overall, what I got from the video is to always persevere, no matter the deterrence. What defines a person is the work they put into their success, not how fast they were able to succeed. I was really able to appreciate this video and it gave me a spark of motivation to overcome my fears, no matter what they be, and find success despite them.
Initially when first looking at this ted talk, I assumed Jia was just going to give a typical lecture about overcoming rejection, using classic illustrations and sayings that I've already heard so many times. However, once the video got started and Jia started to explain his story, who he was, and what brilliant experiment he took part in, I came to the realization that this ted talk is like no other. Jia shares with the audience his intuitive insight into a fear that every single human being has faced, is facing, and will face many more times throughout their lifetime- rejection. Rejection, whether on a small scale in everyday matters, or on a large scale in long term decisions and career choices, can have devastating effects on us mentally. Personally, rejection is right up there on my worst fears, and is synonymous to failure in that regard. Jia notes that when beginning his experiment, on the first day, he found in himself a major mistake, an undermining flaw. When asked the question "Why?" pertaining to his request for $100, he cowardly ran away in fear. He states, "I could of explained myself, I could have negotiated. I didn't do any of that. All I did was run." Running gave him an out, it gave him somewhere to go besides facing the situation at hand. If Jia was to stay and pursue his request even further, or even find out why he was rejected, that negative experience could be turned into a positive learning experience, one that would enable him to avoid being rejected again. On the following day, continuing with his experiment, he gets rejected again, but this time he doesn't flee in anxiety. He reveals, "The life or death feeling I was feeling the first time was no longer there. Just because I stayed engaged. Because I didn't run." This specific part of his talk especially interested me. Everybody wants to take the easy road, everybody wants to be liked, and everybody wants their ideas to be accepted. People plan their lives accordingly. What they don't plan for, however, is what they are going to do when things don't go their way, when they face rejection. People who rise up to that challenge and turn it into a beneficial stepping stone are the ones who truly succeed. They are the ones who can honestly overcame rejection. If you don't, and you run from your rejection, you cannot not say you overcame rejection. You were simply defeated by fear and that fear is never quashed, will be eternally stuck in a state of cowardice.
Rejection is something that everyone deals with through out their life. No matter who you are, you have gone through it at least once. For Jia, it started at a early age, causing a major fear of it to set in. I can relate to this a lot and really get were he is coming from. When I was little, I was extremely shy and didn't make many friends or say anything really because I was afraid of being rejected and I still deal with these fears and doubts today. It is human nature to run way and avoid anything that could cause you harm, both physical and emotional. Nobody wants to be rejected, a fear that can effect everything you do and say and your whole life in general. Jia is a perfect example of that when he said how he was afraid to contribute anything while he was project manager becasue of this intense fear. It was nice to see how he overcame it by simply embracing it instead of running away from it by doing mundane things that anyone could do. He changed from that guy who was afraid to say anything to a guy talking in front of however many people were in that room and everybody on YouTube about his fear and what he discovered while overcoming it. This honestly inspired and makes me think that maybe I could do this and overcome this fear that has plagued my life for so long.
To me, this TED talk was very enlightening and inspiring. To hear Jia Jiang's story about a regimen that he imposed on himself revealing one of life's greatest lessons is a gift. Personally, I've struggled with rejection due to my speech impediment and the fact that peers were more interested in mocking me for it rather than hearing what I had to say. This left me much like Jia: afraid and paranoid of what the other person was thinking. So much so that I wouldn't talk much at all. This TED Talk assured me that I'm not alone in my fear of rejection and my under-confidence. I also found it interesting that although he hasn't established his super-company or bought Microsoft, he has still found success in life through his actions and the message he is spreading from his experiences. His making of correlations between staunch rejection and powerful figures of change was really fascinating, I thought, because it gives more inspiration to those of us who struggle with rejection. It's also very relevant, it being Martin Luther King Jr. Day.
Overall, I enjoyed this TED Talk, I expected this AP extra-credit to be based on some article or other current event happening in some distant part of the world, but it turned out to be a motivating video that I learned a life lesson from. Who knows? Maybe if I ask Mr.Varajao enough times, he might grade my text quiz from two months ago and not reject me!
I've never heard of TED talks but they seem pretty cool, it just so happened that the only reason I watched this video was because my mother rejected my proposal of me going to the library for the next 6 hours. Anyway, it was pretty cool to see how Jia transformed from the beginning of the video to the end, not only literally with his story (the 6 year old growing up to be an entrepreneur) But how at the end of the video he stood taller and spoke with pride and confidence in himself. It's really strange to think that the only reason he is like that today is because he embraced rejection and became immune to the feeling of failure. Because he was okay with the idea of being turned down and knew that it wasn't going to be the end of the world, he did some amazing things, but most importantly, he got some doughnut lady to intertwine 5 donuts... #dedication on her part haha. Thanks Mr. V for sharing this and inspiring me to not give up when i find out that i get a -300 on the AP exam at the end of the year. Just Kidding! (i hope) But in all seriousness its refreshing to see how much he accomplished once he got over the childhood fear that I think haunts most of us.
I really empathize with this guy, with the 6 year old and the 14 year old fighting. Except usually the 14 year old wins and then the 6 year old takes over and I run away anyway. This video was really insightful on quite a few things. I thought that the stories he told showed that some humans are actually pretty decent people, and I think that he's right about not running away opening an oppurtunity. Now if only I could apply that to my life, things would be a lot easier. Hopefully I'll remember this video whenever I want to give up (which, unfortunately, a lot).
This was a very interesting perspective on being rejected. By human nature, people are scared of not being accepted, that many times we don't take social risks, or do anything that has a slight chance of harming are reputation both for ourselves and others. Jia shows that if we get rid of this fear, things we previously couldn't do because it would hurt our reputation could be done. He is right when he says that many successful people take risks that could potentially get them rejected by society. These people don't start out as socially acceptable in many instances. However the people who challenge social boundaries, not giving into the fear of getting rejected tend to be the most successful people in the world.
I think this talk was important because rejection is all around us. If people understood that not all rejection is bad, they will find it easier. If you ask your mom to stay at a friend's house, you just got rejected. You get mad and walk away. Now you have no chance of going to your friends house. Now instead of walking away, you ask your mom why. She says she doesn't know your friends parents well enough to let you stay. After she has explained herself, you can either defend your side and convince her that you should go, or you accept it because she has a good reason to be worried and keep you home. In both scenarios, your relationship with your mom is better off than if you just got mad because you have more information. Rejection always has a reasoning behind it, and you have a right to know that reason. That reason could ultimately help the situation immensely no matter the end result. If you get rejected,ask why, try to explain yourself, and still get told "no", at least you can leave knowing you tried instead of walking away without doing anything. Also, if you get rejected and get mad at the person who said no, is that really fair to them? In the instead of day 1 from the talk, can you really blame the guy for not wanting to give someone he doesn't know $100? He has a logical reason; he doesn't know if he'll get it back. Getting mad or upset will not solve the problem,but make it worse. From this I learned that pushing down my dear and facing my rejection will bring the most benefits. I learned that changing my look on a situation from fear to questioning can help me see a solution beyond my automatic response. Finally, I discovered the concept of burger refills, and now wish they existed because I would definitely buy more burgers.
The speech that Jia Jiang gave was very inspirational as well as being practical. Jia's story of being rejected by his classmates when he was just 6 years old is something that all children fear. Growing up, it is almost second nature as a child or even a teenager to go against our own interests or even moral values just to 'fit in' with the modern trends. Even as adults, at their own jobs, people could filled with the thought of rejection. With this fear people don't share their ideas with coworkers, since they do not want to become outcasts or outsiders at their workspace. But the thing that I found most interesting was how Jia overcame his fear of being rejected. When Jia asked people for a unlikely task to be done, such as being an "Starbucks Greeter " he asked questions like, "Is being a greeter weird?" or "Why not?". With Jia asking these questions, it allowed him to become the greeter because it took away the doubt in the manger's mind that he wasn't capable of doing the job. These little questions like "Why?" or "How come?" could get us into things that we always dreamed of doing. But, people don't ask these questions because they are afraid of being told "no" The word "no" brings fear by itself. "No" brings the thought of rejection and worthlessness into people's mind, since the person's ideas weren't being accepted. With these examples that Jia showed, it is very easy to overcome the fear of being rejected.
Rejection is something that is inevitable in everyone's lives. We, as people, often avoid situations that would result in rejection because we don't want to encounter the feeling of unworthiness. Of course by doing this, we automatically cancel out the chance of achieving greatness (no matter how big, or small). I think one of Jia's bravest moments was the time he decided to look into his fear of being rejected. He identified his problem, and actively did research on how he could conquer it. That's something many of us are too afraid to do- face, and eliminate the issues that hold us back. Jia proved to us that ignoring it and pushing it back isn't the solution. By uncovering the psychology behind his problem, he decided to put himself through various tests. Through this process, Jia discovered things about himself, and others, that he didn't know before. This is a TED talk that was truly inspirational to watch.
Giving into fear and getting rejected are two different things. Only when you give up after being rejected, as Jia Jiang stated, does the opportunity of fear open up. If you let yourself believe that you can't do a certain thing, or let others tell you this, you've already given into fear. Jia explained, however, that rather than giving into fear after rejection (which unfortunately I'm sure all of us have done and will do at some point in our lives), we should embrace it. These rejections should motivate you to try twice as hard. This applies especially when you are passionate about something. Whether it is playing sports or, in Jia's case, becoming a multi-billionare dominant force in the world, work towards these goals if you're enthusiastic about them. Jia's examples show us that it is not easy to embrace this style of living, but anyone can do it.
“No” is a word everyone dreads to hear; whether it is from a friend, family member, co-worker, or a stranger. Rejection hurts because as humans, we all strive to be accepted.
However, we should keep in mind that it is okay to be rejected. You should not give up after one attempt and drown yourself in pessimistic thoughts such as “I’m a failure”, and “I will never be successful”. Why? Because it is only one rejection. One failed attempt does not define you as a person; what you do in response does.
At times, rejection is not your fault. People can jump into conclusions without fully understanding the situation (myself included). Take the situation between Jia and the resident for instance. When Jia inquired as to whether he could plant a flower in the resident's yard, the resident said no. However, after Jia asked why, Jia understood it was not a fault on his part, but rather because “it was because what I [Jia] offered did not fit what he [the resident] wanted”. This shows that something as simple as “why” can get one far. Another situation is where Jia asked the stranger if he could borrow $100. This request was met with rejection, but with some positivity. The stranger’s immediate response was no, yet, they still asked why. This shows that even though the real world is seen as cruel and unforgiving, there is still compassion; people are still willing to lend a helping hand to others.
I feel like as individuals, we should view rejections as life lessons. We should not allow one rejection to prevent us from accomplishing our goals. Instead, ask yourself questions such as “how can I improve?” or “how can I get better?”. Overall, I found Jia’s “100 Days of Rejection” experiment to be fascinating. It was very interesting to see Jia's development as a person. In the beginning, his first initial response was to run away from his fear. But by the end, he learned how to overcome his fear by asking questions and turning rejection into a positive aspect in his life.
Rejection supposedly makes you a better person. Jia Jiang really proved that. Honestly, someone else's opinion of you shouldn't even matter. So what if you can't do something? If you're really committed to doing that action, what's going to stop you? Rejection is something you should take in stride. If someone says no, figure out why, and try again. Life is full of rejection. If you gave up at every "no," you've gotten, you probably wouldn't have much of a life. All that matters is that you have to get out there and do what it is you want to. Always improve yourself at rejection,especially for our age, right now. You get a couple bad grades in class. So what? A 5 out of 15 doesn't dictate your future. Don't cry over spilt milk. It's something that's already happened. Better yourself, and (hopefully) get a better grade next time. And this applies to the rest of life's aspects too, so never give up. Keep on fighting for what you want, even when someone tells you no.
Jia's "talk" about overcoming a fear of rejection is very inspirational and should be shared with everyone. I often don't watch TED Talks but when I do happen to find a video, they always inspire me. Rejection, which is something that everyone tells you to "brush off" or to "get over it" when in reality, that rejection stays with you for a long time. For example, when Jia first started his "100 Days of Rejection", he went up to a random man and asked him for $100. He filmed the whole thing and went he was home that night, he watched it and evaluated the entire situation. He realized that the man he spoke to wasn't menacing at all, he seemed like "a chubby and lovable guy." if he hadn't ran away, he could've dealt with the rejection better. His reason for sharing this particular story is to explain to others that rejection shouldn't be something that people fear. And the reason people fear rejection is because it's something that doesn't go the way we want to, or it just doesn't fit our desire. It can be difficult to accept for example, the fact that you didn't get accepted into your dream university, you weren't hired for your dream job, etc. The main point of Jia's "talk" was to make it known to the rest of the world that rejection is completely ok. You should be able to turn rejection around and make it benefit you by asking simple questions. Rejection should become something that you don't need to fear.
Rejection is something that everyone has endured and is an inevitable roadblock in humanity's quest for acceptance. Jia Jiang is a wonderful example as to why we should not fear rejection. In the modern society, many people see rejection as a thing to be avoided, and will hold back from doing things for fear of being rejected. People sometimes are afraid to state their own opinion because they don't want to face rejection. I can see these things in my own life whether it be saying or doing something unorthodox that might warrant rejection. In my opinion, rejection is like making mistakes: we need to learn from it and become a better person because of it. In Jiang's case, the rejection he felt that one day as a six year old stuck with him throughout his life and he used it as fuel to fulfill his dream of becoming a successful entrepreneur. He used his reaction to the rejection of asking the stranger for $100 as an example of what not to do when rejected. The next day he improved his pitch of asking for a "burger refill" by not running and staying engaged. This is the perfect way to handle being rejected. Instead of running away and getting down on yourself, you should let the rejection make you a better person. That is why even though rejection is bound to happen to everyone at some point, it should be used as an inspiration to succeed in life.
There are many situations in life that can be overcome, but I did not believe that rejection was one of them prior to this video. Rejection is a constant battle that we fight everyday as students. It comes in the form of bad grades, bad auditions, bad try-outs; etc. As shown in the video, there are about a thousand more different possibilities in which you can get rejected. Some hurt more than others, but they hurt nevertheless. Personally, failure and rejection are two of my greatest fears. The simple answer of "no" can make a huge impact on the entirety of your life. In this video, Jia explains that his fear for rejection made him run away from situations entirely. Though I do not wish to ask for $100 from a complete stranger, I can definitely relate with the running away part of his task. I tend to give up easily, no matter how hard I've worked to get where I am. This is something I wish to overcome now. The most incredible part of Jia's presentation is the tricks he learned on how to avoid rejection. Through his "100 Days of Rejection" project, he learned that there may be several reasons as to why someone may say no that have nothing to do with you as a person. In addition, he learns that asking simple questions or relating to a persons thoughts can make it more likely for them to accept your offer. It's crazy how the human brain works that way. Clearly, there was a lot to learn from this presentation. In the future, I hope to utilize these techniques to either overcome rejection or avoid it.
Giving in to rejection can be a very hard thing to do, wether you're an operating entrepreneur or a let alone; a six year old. It's something that's feared everywhere, at every age and can be a battle that's tough to overcome. Throughout this video, Jia Jang rationally explained how rejection is an essential part of human nature as he learned through an experiment his teacher did when he was six, and being rejected in the business-world. Everyone faces rejection a few times throughout their lives. Sometimes it can be painful, but other times it can be extremely eye opening. The feeling of rejection can be pretty heartbreaking, whether you're being rejected for who you are, or your ideas and beliefs, or your abilities, rejection can destroy us. In this video, Jia Jang teaches us to embrace it, because all in all, it makes us who we are, especially if you can fight through the rejection. He showed us this through his 100 days of rejection project. In the beginning stages of this project, he did what any person would do. He ran away in embarrassment of the rejection he faced. However, as he started to understand the dynamic of rejection more and more throughout this project, he came to a realization; that being rejection isn't something that should end an opportunity for us, it creates one. He stopped running away from it and started questioning it and when he did this, he realized rejection isn't so bad after all. When we stop running away from the word "no", accept it and let it encourage us to do something more, rejection can become something thats beneficial to us. Whether you like it or not, you're going to be rejected and definitely more than once-I know I have. How you handle rejection is a definite determining factor for who you are as person. But when you stop looking at it as something negative and learn to use it to your advantage, you can achieve great things.
Rejection is just the type of thing that just can not get avoided. Human beings think the best way to avoid situations that would end in rejection, is to run away from it like it will never come back. Were not good with handling things that give us the feeling of awkwardness or that we aren't worth anything. By running from fear, you lose the chance of achieving greatness no matter the size of the scenario. Jia's bravest moments was the time he decided to look into his fear of being rejected. He identified his problem with the feeling of rejection and googled away to fix it so he may achieve more things in life. Most people in today's day and age are to nervous about any of that. We all just sit behind technology and think it's so much easier to deal with situations like that. For example, most teens never will have to feel the feeling of rejection from a girl or boy they like in person. Teens these days deal with everything from their phones because they believe it is an easier way to deal with situations than running away. Jia proved that ignoring it and pushing it back won't fix it at all. By unveiling the psychology behind this problem, he put himself through various scenes where he would be rejected. Throughout this process, Jia discovered things he never knew about himself. I really enjoyed this TED Talk and felt it left a huge impact on me.
The whole concept of rejection is terrifying and nerve-racking, wether you're a young kid or a teenager or an adult, it's something that many of us fear. I think Jia's story of his rejection and motivation to overcome that fear is truly inspiring. I feel like it's important though to point out how Jia approached his "100 days of rejection", the goal was to desensitize himself from the feeling of being rejected by constantly being rejected, but he got so much more out of it. Instead of just being faced with flat out rejection and doing it so many times that it didn't faze him, he eventually asks why he was rejected. Jia asking why he was rejected was probably the most important concept of his project, because instead of just having to accept his rejection and move on, he was able to know that maybe it wasn't just because of him. I think this motivating, especially to people our age as students, because it can encourage us to ask questions in class or ask why we weren't given points on assignments, instead of just accepting we don't understand a topic or thinking that we just didn't deserve the the credit. Rejection is a hard thing to face, but if people started asking why, instead of just accepting it, the world would be filled with a better understanding of how other people feel and people more motivated to succeed in the next opportunity they get.
I find rejection an essential part of life. It’s clear that everyone experiences rejection at some point in life, even in small quantities every day. People can take rejection like Jia did on the first day of his experiment and run away in embarrassment, which is what many people do when they are grown up, or they could take rejection as a learning experience and continue to persevere until they get what they want. For example, if you get rejected after a job interview, are you going to go home and cry about it or ask what you could do better and why? The better idea is clearly choice two. Think about it; if you go back with confidence and civility and ask what the other person had that you didn’t, you could get insight on what employers want and maybe even get a different position. With this newfound knowledge you can improve your interviewing skills and almost definitely get the next job.
Sometimes rejection can be seen as a wake up call. Maybe if you receive a bad grade on a test that you studied hard for, you need to change up your study habits, or just study more. In the words of my dad, “If being successful was easy, everyone would do it.” Sometimes it takes a little failure for a better outcome. In the context of the TED Talk, Jia wanted to be a Starbucks greeter, but when he initially asked the manager he was rejected right away but when he changed it up and said “I know it’s weird right” Jia gained the trust of the Starbucks manager and he actually gave Jia permission to be a greeter. By simply changing his approach to the question, Jia did in fact get what he wanted. This is so important because initial rejection in life can actually lead to your desired outcome by just changing up a few things.
I think this TED Talk was really inspiring, especially to AP students. I know when I first started APWH after having a high 90’s average in 8th grade history, I was really upset with myself over my initial grades. I didn’t like that I had to study extra hard just to get a 90. When I was getting low grades on my first couple of quizzes my freshman year, I knew I had to change something in my outlines, studying skills and in class. By making these changes, my grades went up and I set higher expectations for myself in all my classes. That small slump of disappointment allowed me to accel in the long run and I got much better grades later in the school year. Rejection is a very important part of life.
As Jia Jiang explains his experience with rejection in this TED talk, I found it to be extremely inspiring and relatable. Whether you are a first grade student or a thirty year old entrepreneur, rejection is an aspect of life everyone has to face, but how you deal with rejection is what can shape you as a person. If someone allows rejection to overcome them it can place limits on the quality of life they have. However, if you can find a way to embrace rejection it can help you become a better leader, and an overall well balanced individual. This TED talk demonstrated that rejection is present in our everyday lives. Especially in high school, not making it on a sports team, receiving a bad grade, or having a bad audition are all forms of rejection we face everyday. What I found to be especially inspiring is when Jia Jiang mentions that people who made a change in the world all initially faced rejection, however they didn't allow rejection to defy them, but instead they used rejection to make them a stronger individual.
Throughout our lives, we’re constantly faced with this internal battle. We go through life constantly questioning ourselves. Why? Rejection. It’s everywhere. No matter where you are or what you do, rejection is always right around us. From asking to go out, failed job interviews, tryouts for anything, or in Jia Jiang’s case, lack of compliments, it’s always there in one way or the next. It’s upsetting that something that seems so small could have such a significant impact on individuals and/or groups as a whole. One thing can impact our lives forever, but the question is: Do we let it? Should we let a simple “no” stand in our way? Most people would say ‘of course not’. Yet, our actions exemplify quite the contrary. Once rejected, we always seem to run away. It’s recuperation that we’re lacking. Jia is a perfect example of this. When he was 6, he was faced with rejection and for the rest of his life, that one memory has haunted him. When he was 14, he decided he wanted to build a very large company by the time he was 25. Well, by the time he was 30, he didn’t even start pursuing that dream yet. Why? Again, rejection. He let one little thing that happened to him decades ago stand in the way of his dream. He was stuck in this constant internal battle with himself as 6 year old him competed with 14 year old him throughout everything. Proving how powerful rejection really is, unfortunately, 6-year-old Jia nearly always won. Anyhow, later in his life, he looked for a way to overcome this fear, which is when he gave himself the task of willingly being rejected everyday for 100 days. Throughout his little journey, Jia learned many lessons and little by little, it became clear that his fear of rejection was beginning to fade. My favorite quote from the video speaks “I found, if I just don’t run if I got rejected, I could actually turn a ‘no’ into a ‘yes’”. I feel that there’s a lot to take from this simple idea. By just using the right words, building confidence, and simply not running after the initial let-down, it really is possible to find acceptance rather than rejection. Jia exhibited this in multiple ways. Hilariously, he was able to turn a ‘no’ into a ‘yes’ when he asked for an Olympic-type-donut. Astonishingly enough, that’s exactly what we got. Though that’s a bit of a stretch, the point is, acceptance can overpower rejection. You just have to face the bad to get to the good. This video is truly inspiring. I feel that more people should watch this and really get a better understanding of rejection and how to overcome it. I’m not saying that everyone should investigate with rejection for 100 days like Jia Jiang did, but they should listen to his story. He gives a new sense of hope and that’s something more people in this world need to realize is still there. Rejection can be extremely agonizing and Jia Jiang proved that that doesn’t mean it can or should take over your life.
Fear is a powerful emotion that can affect your decisions in either a positive way or a negative way. In today's world, our fear is primarily caused by the result of our thoughts. I think a big part in our fear of rejection is that we are scared that people won't accept us for who we are. No matter the degree of success or talent a person has, the fear of rejection is something that still creates challenges in everyday life. However as discussed in this TED talk by Jia Jiang, rejection in some cases is inevitable and your response to rejection is what defines you as a person. The actions you take to move past failure and reach success will ultimately define you in the end. Instead of letting one failure define you as a person, you should take actions to allow you to move on and learn from it. For example, Jia Jiang created the "100 Days of Rejection" and everyday would put himself in a situation in which he would face rejection like asking for a "burger-refill" at a restaurant. I think Jia Jiang's "100 Days of Rejection" was a crucial part in his personal development and has definitely shaped him to have a more positive outlook on rejection. I also believe that everyone should adopt Jia Jiang's way of handling the fear of rejection.
Rejection is fear instilled in everybody who has experienced it, but there is no path that is available to take that avoids the possibility of rejection. In Jia's case rejection could be a job proposal, or a lack of compliments in class, but there is rejection all around us. Jia discusses many solutions he had searched for on google, and many are just simply stating to overcome it, which does not assist him in any way. The challenge he takes on is from a website called rejectionthereapy.com, and is the only way he had found the solution to rejection. Jia soon realized that simply understanding the situation and asking "why?" could go a long way. By asking this question many doors are opened for further chances. The person rejecting you can explain why, such as the man who would not permit Jia to plant the flower in his backyard, which could give you another opportunity. Secondly, by understanding the situation, the person could offer constructive criticism that will allow you to become a better person, and a better fit for whatever you may have been rejected for. What I find to be the most important statement from this video comes in the last few seconds of the video, where Jia states "When you get rejected in life, consider the possibilities, don't run, if you just embrace them, they might just become your gifts as well." If you consider the possibilities of what may happen if you question a rejection, it may come true and benefit you significantly more than simply running from the opportunity.
Rejection plays a huge role today in how people act on their desires. As Jia describes, rejection is just a roadblock that can easily be avoided by just the simple word, why? Rejection gets in the way for most people and they don't achieve what they would like because they are too afraid to see the outcome but generally it is not that bad. As Jia stated, after just agreeing with his doubts and saying the idea is weird, it completly changes the mindset of the person you're talking to and can alter the outcome of the conversation. I truly believe that if you are rejected enough and can learn to take rejection in less of a harsh way and just see peoples ideals for what they are and talk it out, you can get places with what you ask. As well as getting places with what you may ask, it makes it more comfortable to have a conversation when you know how people will respond to the radical ideas you can throw at them and how you can basically swing the entire conversation and change it so you can get something out without all of the rejection fears. Finally this video really helps me see a whole new perspective on rejection and why people can say what they say and how you can just simply change how you and they feel about the topic at hand.
This TED talk thoroughly explains and interprets a concept that all people go through, but do not think about deeply enough; rejection. Most people are one sided to rejection, and as Jia says, it is in human nature to run from and try to forget our problems. I have learned that, while this strategy may succeed in making you feel better for a bit, it only delays the problem at hand; so that when rejection strikes again, it will only be worse. Alternatively, Jia sought to overcome his fear, and by continuing despite struggles, he was able to embrace rejection as well as learn many valuable life lessons and break psychological barriers that are much more complicated than they are commonly thought to be. Very few people are able to do this, but the ones who do achieve high levels of achievement and productivity; working towards their individual dream without second thoughts or embarrassment. Examples of these select people include entrepreneurs, businessmen, authors, singers, actors, athletes, etc. These occupations share the need of approval by others in order to succeed and continue, and if that approval is not given on the first attempt, it is important not to give up. Clearly, by not running from rejection, people like Jia become very successful and are able to learn many important things about themselves and the people in the world around them. As a result of viewing his TED talk, I now know how to apply practically apply psychological concepts to my own experiences; such as mentioning a person's doubts to gain their trust, or simply asking the question "why". Overall, I believe that this TED talk has opened a previously unexplored psychological aspect of life, that, when understood can open the mind and provide inspiration to problems that are experienced by all.
This video really spoke out to me. I believe that was Jia did is what everyone needs to learn to do, no matter where they are or what they want to do in life. Rejection is something that every single person faces in many different forms. For us as students it may be bad grades or not being able to take part in a selective event. For others, it may be a job interview or simply being rejected by another person. Rejection surrounds us so much that it doesn’t even have to be from an outside source. Our own thoughts may lead us to think about possible rejections or negative outcomes and consequently hold us back or make us doubt ourselves. This fear of being told no limits people on hundreds of opportunities they could instead be aiming towards. I strongly agree with Jia in that overcoming this power that the idea of rejection may hold upon us is extremely important. Not everyone will say yes and not everyone will agree with you so having the ability to move on in life or getting back up is crucial to being successful. Just as Jia proved, he wanted to teach and he kept asking professors if he could teach their class. Yes, he wasn’t given permission right away but he kept asking and was finally given the opportunity. He was no longer six-year-old Jia. He rose up from that and created a person who wasn’t scared to hear something that went against his desires and he wasn’t afraid to try again. Becoming anything in life requires this ability. I think this video brings people to the realization of that and gives them hope by having a real life example to look up to if this is something they too need to change.
Jia Jiang's view on rejection is one that I hope all society could be able to follow. As Jia touched on, rejection is not a simple concept to respond to. Many people associate rejection with the idea of being turned down or having your ideas bashed on however, in Jia Jiang's speech he explains how rejection is not necessarily a bad thing and could essentially spark more enthusiasm and drive to achieve your goals. During Jia Jiang's 100 days of rejection experiment, he began to realize how rejection shouldn't hold us back. On day 1 of this experiment Jia asks for $100 dollars from a complete stranger. Expecting no as an answer, he asks and gets his expected result. Like Jia mentioned the rejection was not what struck him the most but his subjects answer, "why" was what inspired him to continue his "rejection path" . If he has just stayed a few seconds longer responding to the strangers question of why, maybe Jia could have convinced him to think otherwise. So on his second day Jia requested a burger refill at a restaurant and was yet again faced with rejection however, he approached it differently. After he was rejected, Jia spoke to the employee and explained to him why this should be implemented into the company. This employee even began to say how he would suggest this to his manager (nonetheless this restaurant never changed their policy so how would we know if the message was received by the manager). Already, in only 2 out of the 100 days of Jia's experiment we have seen an difference in the subjects responses with only of the idea to not run away from rejection. Now on day three Jia asked an Krispy Kreme employee to make his donuts into the shape of the olympic rings and expecting rejection, Jia's idea were ultimately received and his order was fulfilled. This was definitely the part of the TED talk that struck me the most. In only two days time, Jia managed to turn around his ways of rejection from running away in fear post rejection, to his idea that he thought would ultimately be turned down, being fulfilled. Yet again pushing the idea that rejection isn't necessarily the worst thing that could happen to you. Jia's social experiment and his idea of never giving up is one that I hope I could follow in the future.I wanted to conclude this response with one of my own personal favorite quotes about rejection that I truly feel is very inspiring, "An arrow can only be released by first pulling it back. When life pulls you back, it simply means you're launching into something amazing."- Anonymous
In this TED talk, Jia illustrates how rejection can force you to hide and run away, or embrace this rejection to help you succeed. Much like Jia, Martin Luther King Jr, and Jesus, I have been faced with rejection throughout my life and it can be scary. Although I have minimal rejection in my life, the way we react to this rejection really describes who you are as a person. Jia’s lessons of rejection have taught me that you cannot let it slow you down or discourage you from reaching your goals. If I was denied acceptance from a college, should I let this stop me from becoming what I want to, or should I use this to work even harder and embrace this rejection? This is the message Jia is trying to teach everyone who watches this TED talk. I feel that this life lesson is so significant to learn, and it has changed my outlook on all of my experiences of rejection. Also, he says that you should not let fear discourage you from asking or continuing to get what you want. When Jia was rejected the first time he asked to plant a flower in someone’s backyard, his fear didn’t stop him from achieving his goal. He simply asked why and it had nothing to do with the man’s distrust. In my experiences with trying out for sports teams, if I was too afraid to tryout because I thought I wasn’t good enough I would never be where I am today. Also, if I was afraid to take all of the hardest classes I wouldn’t be able to reach my full potential. Therefore, Jia’s lessons about rejection have taught me that welcoming rejection instead of fearing it will allow us to achieve our goals.
Life is full of obstacles. Everyone will tell you that, and chances are that they will tell you that you become stronger through every obstacle in which you pass too. But how does that apply to our lives? There’s always these inspirational quotes, but how do we apply them to our lives? This TED Talk showed relatable experiences that actually provided real-life applications of useful advice. Jia showed how he transformed from the six-year old who became afraid of being rejected from society to using that skill to become a successful person. “What defines us is how well we rise after falling.” This quote from Batman shows the core theme of Jia’s TED Talk, which is that each “rejection”, or “obstacle” you pass, shows the true character of a person. Essentially, your true character is not shown when everything is easy, but rather when everything is hard. So what does this have to do with AP World History, or even school in general? Basically, I believe that this video was used as an inspirational tool for us students to use in school. No matter what you do wrong (like getting a bad grade) doesn’t matter, but rather how you become better that is really imperative for prosperity. Mistakes are there for a reason: so that you can learn from them and become a better person. You can either mope and cry after you get a 50 on a math test, or start asking yourself what you did wrong, and how to do better next time. If it was a bad test, then know what you did wrong to correct it. If this has been happening consistently, ask for help from your teacher, or be committed to learn what you don’t understand. No matter how lost you think you are, there’s always a path out of the darkness. Fear can either set you back, or motivate you to do better. Therefore, I believe that without hardships, no one would have the drive to continue in their success. So it’s almost the end of the half year mark, and it’s a crossroad (just like Japan and China faced). Either you can start trying new things and persevere to become better (Japan), or you can continue to mope and cry about your past mistakes (China). Subsequently, I think that overcoming your mistakes no matter what kind of rejection you face because of it is the true concept of this TED Talk.
Rejection is perhaps one of humanity's greatest fears but it is inevitable in our lives. People are asked with the question of whether a "no" should affect our paths to the future and the majority would refer to those inspirational quotes which stated that people should simply overcome these barricades of rejection and that it shouldn't be taken personally. Unfortunately, this isn't applied by people in these situations and people still run away from their fear of rejection. Jia Jiang however, shows that running from the fear of rejection is the worst thing that can be done and he is able to prove this. In his 100 days of rejection, he faces his fears and eventually becomes less afraid of rejection by simply realizing that other people think similarly to him and that their attitude can be completely altered by a few words. This turn made him more confident and more successful in life. Rejection is unfortunate but it is part of life for a good reason; to show us that it actually isn't all that bad and to allow us to learn from it and become more successful as individuals. Some of the world's most successful figures didn't get to their position with ease; they went through and faced multiple forms of obstacles in their life and are able to use these experiences to their advantage by better understanding the psychology of the people around them and can act more confidently when arriving in situations with these people. This TED Talk can inspire other people to chase after their dreams without the fear of feeling rejected.
This TED talk by Jia Jiang was well done and gives a new perspective on a typically negative topic: rejection. People don't like being rejected, especially in modern society, where we often get what we want, when we want it. Even if this mindset might only be relevant to materialistic things,this mindset permeates into other aspects of life, most clearly our social experiences. This ends up in us feeling very defeated, confused, and even angry when we don't get what we want; for example, if we got rejected after asking friends out on an outing we would most likely experience the feelings previously listed. Also, people tend to actively avoid rejection; take Jia Jiang as an example, who had done so ever since his incident at six years old. After all, why would anyone want to experience something negative like rejection? Another example is on public transportation, people often find distractions to avoid awkward silence or having to talk to strangers, which could result in rejection. In the past, it was most often newspapers, and now phones, tablets, laptops, and other technology is used.
Rejection is just another form of failure. And no one wants to fail. But as Jia Jiang shows with his "100 days of rejection", rejection (or failure) can be used as a powerful learning experience to better ourselves in the long run. Rejection, typically negative, can be turned into something positive. I think that having a mindset of self-analysis/improvement and taking failures as learning opportunities are both incredibly important skills for all of us to learn.
Jiang's main point is that we should overcome our fears of rejection, and that when presented with rejection, we should assert ourselves and then move on if still rejected. I can relate this to risk taking and my mom. Most people (myself included) are afraid of putting themselves at risk of rejection. However, Jia Jiang explains that taking risks is a necessary step towards being successful, by using Martin Luther King Jr. as an example, who risked being rejected for his greater cause of equality. Jiang's other point is the importance of assertiveness when facing rejection. Recently, my mom told me that you can't get very far in life if you aren't assertive to some degree. I think this is true. An example of assertiveness when facing rejection is when Jiang asked to plant the flower. He wouldn't have ended up planting it if he did not assert himself after being told no. For most people, once they are told no, that is the end of it; but Jiang's TED talk encourages us to assert ourselves when faced with rejection and to tone down our fear of it in order to better ourselves.
Rejection is a major obstacle which is faced several times in a lifetime. Sometimes, rejection overcomes us and prevents us from reaching our goals by instilling fear and paranoia. In this TED Talk, Jia addresses his previous fear of rejection and the manner in which he overcame it. Jia’s previous fear of rejection is something almost everyone can relate to. Rejection usually holds us back from reaching our full potential in life. Not many people attempt to actually learn to better themselves after rejection. Instead of this, people find negative ways to deal with their rejection and let their emotions of sadness and fear overcome them. They do this because many people, including myself, are so distraught after being rejected that they don’t try to do anything about it. They just develop a negative attitude and let this negativity hold them back, while people who learn from their rejection can better themselves in order to succeed in the future. This is what Jia learned throughout the course of his life. Once he began to learn from rejection, he learned how to become a more resilient and successful person. “It’s fine to celebrate success, but it is more important to learn the lessons of failure.” This quote by Bill Gates is basically what Jia was explaining in this TED Talk. The lessons learned rejection are sometimes far more valuable than continued success. Jia gained valuable life lessons through being rejected because he was very open minded towards rejection. He only carried the lessons he could learn from the rejections he faced and left the negative aspects of the rejections behind, especially during his “100 Days of Rejection.” In my opinion, this is the most difficult life lesson a person will ever learn, but I feel that whoever learns this lesson and applies it to their life, as Jia did, will become very successful and happier people.
This video was incredibly inspiring to me, as I deal with constant anxiety over the fear of rejection on a daily basis. Jia's take on and battle with a fear of rejection is something I can personally relate to. As Emily mentioned earlier in this discussion, I too felt very insecure last year going from consistent easy high 90s and 100s in US History in 8th grade to getting a few 70s for the first time in my life. At first, I was too overwhelmed with all of the work that I had to do; between outlines, CTQs, and chapter quizzes every week, I simply was not used to being held to such high standards. I was afraid that this class would mess up my whole life plan, to get into honors society, be in the top of my class, and go to a good college. I did not know what to do. I was, ans still am afraid of rejection. The difference is that I now know how to manage it much better than I did last year and previous years. In ninth grade, I was afraid to ask my parents or my peers or even my teachers for help because I was afraid that I wouldn't be able to even do it with access to resources. I was scared that I would be rejected by highschool, with its new standards, expectations, and workloads. Once I began to realize that I wasn't unintelligent, but simply ridden by anxiety due to the change occurring in my life, I began to understand my problem and was able to change it. Today, I am not the same person I used to be. Last year, I would cry if I got a grade below an 85, and I would have awful anxiety before any sort of test or quiz. Although today I still suffer from test anxiety, I know how to handle it much better than before. I am no longer afraid of getting rejected, whether it be by getting a bad grade on a quiz, or not understanding something in trig, or even by not being allowed to hang out with my friends. I still am going to be nervous about being rejected from my dream school, and before the AP exam in May, but thanks to Jia's video and this past year of school, I now understand one rejection doesn't ruin my whole day, let alone my life. The next time I get a poor grade, I will make the best of it, knowing that I tried my hardest and can learn from my mistakes. I will understand that getting one bad mark on a quiz in 10th grade chemistry will not be what prevents me from getting into a good college. In fact, getting bad grades every once in a while just shows that I am human, and that we all are. We shouldn't be afraid of rejection, because its what makes us into a stronger person. When Jia was rejected as a 6 year old, he was inspired to become an entrepreneur, travel to America, and buy Microsoft from Bill Gates with his own company. When I am rejected, I am inspired do better, whether it be in school, relationships, sports, or just life. I hope that all of you have taken away as much as I have from this video in both quality and quantity. Thank you Jia for giving me the motive to simply not be afraid to ask questions, and to never fear rejection.
In this TED Talk, Jia Jiang talks about the term ''rejection". you can either be the person who is terrified of rejection , fears it, the person who runs away from it. On the contrary, you can be the person who builds off of rejection and uses it as fuel to your goal. You should be the person who takes rejection and turns it into success. In my opinion, rejection is not a bad thing at all. Personally, I think rejection is a great thing. I think that failing over and over again is the way to become successful. Those who have never been met with failure before, will panic once they come across rejection. They will be the people that run away. The person who has tried over and over and keeps failing looks a rejection as another step towards success. I have not came across a lot of rejection in my life but this TED talk inspired me to not run from rejection. I have been motivated to react to rejection in a positive way. The way you handle rejection can reflect your level of maturity and overall how you handle yourself as a person. One of the main things i took away from this video was to apply this in life. You cannot let rejection slow down your path to success or fulfilling your dream. If you want to become a professional athlete but everyone is always telling you to not waste your time or that its impossible or you will never make it, do not let it discourage you, just keep moving forward and stick to your plan. In this TED talk, the names Martin Luther King Jr, Nelson Mandela, and Jesus Christ are used. they were used because these are a few iconic people who did not let rejection define them. What they did after they faced rejection is what ultimately defined who they were. Jia's rejection did not stop him from achieving his goals. he put his fear aside and went to achieve. this reminds me of all the times that I am scared before a big test and scared before a championship game. I am not scared about the other side, I am scared about failing or not being up to expectations. Jia in a way motivated me to but my fear aside and realize that the only person that can stop myself is me. i really liked this video because it taught me how to not let fear get in my way of reaching my goals.
Jia Jiang in this TED talk sheds light on how many people develop fear through their childhood. When Jia was 6, his fear of being rejected was revealed when nobody had a compliment for him and the teacher instead tells him and the two other kids to "behave next year" and maybe "someone will say something nice about you". This example shows exactly how many kids will grow up and still be afraid to try something new and different because of their past experiences. This fear of being rejected continues to snowball up to adulthood, and many people don't go out of their comfort zone, causing them to turn down dozens of opportunities given to them. Next Jia tells us about his admiration for Bill Gates and his letter he wrote to his parents about Microsoft domination. This shows the other side of Jia that wants to take risks and achieve childhood dreams. The two sides of Jia would continue to clash up to his 30s, and his 6 year old self would always win, backing out and running away after being rejected most notable by being turned down by an investment opportunity After thIs Jia's side of risks and childhood dreams began to show, and he decided to find ways to overcome his fear. Finding Jason Comely's website, Jia was able to, one day at a time, go outside of his comfort zone and get rejected by someone everyday for 100 days. During his journey, he was able to stay engaged and discovered that there sometimes is a reason for being rejected. If you walk away, your initial reaction is that you either weren't trusted by the other person or something was wrong on your part. But, Jia then realized that rejection could be because what he offered did not fit what someone wanted, like getting told he can't plant the flower in the persons backyard because the guy's dog would dig it up. I believe there is a reason for everything, and this is what Jia figured out during his 100 days of rejection. After going through this whole period of rejection, Jia was able to overcome his fear and actually fulfill his grandmas dream of him becoming a teacher (for a day). Finally, Jia looked towards icons like MLK Jr and Jesus Christ who embraced rejection and had to overcome it every day on a much greater scale. After Jia started embracing rejection like these icons, he was able to help other people like him who were scared of going out of their comfort zone. With this TED talk, I am now able to think about other things when being rejected other than "I did something wrong," and "I'm never going to do this again." Jia now allows me to not just continuously run away, I am now able to ask why and find the reason for rejection, something I would have never thought of if I didn't watch this video. Don't let your fears define you, get out of your comfort zone and try something new, or try accomplishing your dreams one step at a time. Thank you for allowing us to watch this video, as I can learn from this and apply it to my everyday life.
This talk was great, as it addresses a frequent problem faced every day for most people; facing your problems and fears. Jia's fear in this case was rejection. When he first addressed his method of coping/desensitizing himself to rejection, I was naturally confused as to how this would help him in the long run. I thought this would ultimately lead up to an extremely low self esteem that it would get to the point that he would be afraid to approach anyone at all, but what changed that is the way he handled the rejection. He faced his fears with acceptance and approached it with a new perspective to see what would work out for him eventually. "Acceptance of one's life has nothing to do with resignation; it does not mean running away from the struggle. On the contrary, it means accepting it as it comes, with all the handicaps of heredity, of suffering, of psychological complexes and injustices." This video of Jia reminded me of this quote by Paul Tournier, as they both reminded me that with the goal to better yourself, rejection or any other fear we face is not impossible to overcome. Jia teaches that there's a possible positive option that comes with the negative outcome of a situation if one really cares enough to meet their objective. I definitely see myself using this method of overcoming rejection/other fears in the future, as it would lead me to newer perspectives that would help better myself as a person and problem solver.
In this interesting TED Talk, Jia Jiang shows us how people fear and avoid rejection. Furthermore, Jia explains that despite its negative connotation, rejection can be a positive and beneficial part of our lives. In modern times especially, people resent rejection; they see it as a definitive no and a failure. However, as Jia shows us, rejection can be used to better ourselves. For example, Jia goes on a “Rejection Therapy” to learn from his rejection and grow from it. From this, he learns to be persistent and confident. Jia also explains how we should not run away from rejection. Although we may fear it, we shouldn’t back down because someone said “no”; we should stand strong and ask “why” they said no. Jia does this in his sixth day of “Rejection Therapy” when he plants a flower in someone's backyard. Jia was able to avoid being rejected by standing for himself and asking “why”. This is what Jia is trying to teach us; instead of letting your fear overcome you, let it motivate you to become persistent and confident. Not many people have the resilience to be persistent after rejection. This Talk taught me greet rejection with positivity, not negativity because I can use it to be more persistent, resilient, and confident.
Before I even begin to write about one of the many aspects of this video, I wanted to state that the idea of what to write came oddly naturally after watching the video as it was truly an intriguing video. The aspect that caught my attention the most was when he talked about becoming a 'greeter' at Starbucks. Jia Jiang acknowledged the fact that us as humans think very much alike. When Jiang eased the tension by stating what both he and the Starbucks employee were thinking, it became apparent how often situations like that present themselves. This is a topic I find myself thinking about a lot. The similarity between our human thoughts. Whether it be an awkward silence or bumping into someone in the hallway. More often than not, both sides will feel pressured due to the silence or feel guilty for bumping into someone. That similarity interests me as it spans across many situations throughout life, and the tension can dissipate with a simple joke acknowledging the situation. The fact that Jiang did this and was able to get a nonexistent job for an hour goes to show the extent of this. Ultimately, I found that portion of the TED Talk very interesting, although I am not denouncing the rest of the extraordinary presentation given by Jiang.
I found this TED Talk to be incredibly inspiring. I think that as a human, we are all susceptible to the fear of rejection and the side effects that it may have. Personally, I have had some hardships with rejection and it was motivational to see Jia Jiang talk about his losses and rejections and still be an incredibly successful person. I think one important life lesson to take away from this is that we should use our rejections and failures as a way to grow and develop as a person, and to live life successfully without having the fear of rejection or failure stop us from achieving our goals. In some cases, rejection can be inevitable and it is important that we know how to move past it and turn the fear and negative feelings into confidence and develop the ability to move forward. After watching this TED talk, I feel inspired to use rejection as a lesson towards myself and others, and I will remember now how to be confident even if I have feelings of doubt and fear.
The following video by Jia Jiang produced by TED is a very inspirational video pointed towards many people in this world and the common struggle present: rejection. Rejection is a fear because many people in this world don't want to feel that feeling. Nobody wants to be scared, or feel like a fool, or feel awkward in some sort of way. Just like how Jing stated, people run when they are rejected, and sometimes don't even ask what they are thinking because they are scared. JIng Jiang made a great point during his speech: stay engage in what you are saying, and don't run because of fear or even the answer you received by your question. Coming from person with this rejection fear, it's scary talking when you have no self confidence. I feel i'm dumb thinking of the questions I have, and end up never asking them because I'm scared of rejection. Jia's blog and rejection challenges is something I am willing to try in order to fix this fear I have. I feel people judge me when I talk and have unique questions to ask, but in the end Jia is right: people don't care about how you look, their rejection is because it's something they don't want. Although they are so funny, I think it will help me along with other people to get over this fear. It is important for me to get over this fear, especially if I want to be teacher when I grow up. I am very happy I decided to watch this video, and that Jia Jiang decided to make it in the first place because it made me understand that I can get over this fear by doing actions such as staying engage and remaining confident in what I am saying all the time.
I’ve watched TED Talks in the past and they are not only informative and full of life lessons, but they’re usually so interesting that they’re fun to watch. This particular talk by Jia Jiang really struck a chord in me because this common fear of rejection is explained clearly and with humor. The fear of rejection seems to be a natural part of the human personality and I think it’s something that most everyone has trouble dealing with. I believe that most people do what they can to avoid falling into situations where there’s a chance of being rejected. Jia really did a brilliant job in explaining the idea of accepting and embracing rejection. He described a few tricks that he discovered and showed that you can really overcome the fear and, in fact, even turn rejection into acceptance, approval, and success. Rejection is everywhere in our lives, it’s what makes life challenging. It’s inevitability is why it is so important that we all learn this lesson taught by Jia. Rejection is not failure. Ask “why” to find out the reason behind the rejection, learn from it, and use it to improve your chances of getting a “yes” the next time you ask for something. As Jia mentioned in his lecture, more often than not, the people who end up making a difference in the world are the ones who also overcome rejection initially. Not that Super Bowl 49 changed the course of human history, but Malcom Butler, a 5’11’’ 190 pound cornerback out of West Alabama, wasn’t drafted in 2014 as he hoped and expected. That was Butler’s initial rejection. But not letting this rejection and disappointment define him, Butler worked his way into the Patriots training camp, impressed the coaches and earned a contract for the 2014 season. Fast forward to the Super Bowl matchup against the Seahawks. With 20 seconds left in the game and driven back to their own one yard line, undrafted rookie cornerback Malcom Butler picked off a Russell Wilson pass to cement the Patriots Super Bowl victory over Seattle. Through his perseverance and unwillingness to turn and run from rejection, Butler earned himself a spot on an NFL team and punched his team’s ticket to a Super Bowl victory, all in his rookie season. This is just one example of how understanding and embracing rejection can lead to success in life. Every time I hear a story like this I feel encouraged to work hard, to learn from my mistakes, to overcome my fears and to never give up.
As someone who has had their fair share of struggles with the concept of rejection and failure, Jia's overall message resonated a lot with me. Now being in high school, especially beginning the search (and struggles) of finding that dream college, that gloomy cloud of "failure" and "rejection" has definitely started to weigh over my head. While watching Jia's talk one part in particular stood out to me. He talked about having his six year old self always holding him back from opportunity, being scared of disappointment. This short anecdote and the way he uses it to show that little devil of self-doubt on your shoulder made me think a lot about how I deal with rejection and more importantly how I always try to avoid it. His main message is that rejection as a whole is natural and part of life. That going for what you want, and sometimes being rejected while doing it is important. This made me think about all of the times I could have stepped out of my comfort zone but didn't due to my fear of failure. Though, it also made me think of the times where I did step out of my bubble and even if I was let down that the lesson I learned from it was helpful for my growth as a person. As Alfred Lord Tennyson said, "tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all." Though we aren't discussing love this idea parallels with the point Jia makes. It is better to ask and be turned down then to never have tried. As I now begin the search for that dream college I will now keep in mind Jia's message. I would like to thank Jia for reminding me that this feeling of failure is natural and important. Even if the feeling affects you for some time, the way you deal with it and move on is just as important as being accepted.
I'm not completely sure of the exact requirements of this response, but personally I would prefer to reply in a relaxed, less forced tone. The speaker, Jia Jiang, hits upon a few interesting points about rejection in his lecture. The part that stuck out to me the most was the very beginning, when he told the story of how no one wanted to compliment him in first grade. Personally, I felt the crowd made this more of a joke than it should have been and didn't give the event the seriousness it deserved. Now this was just something in the video that bothered me. Anyway, throughout the lecture I found myself asking "How would I react?" or "Am I the same way?". After some thought on this matter I've come to the conclusion that I (and I imagine many of my fellow students) have never truly felt the pain of rejection. Sure, everyone has been in situations where they feel left out or on the outside looking in, but nothing Jia discusses, such as getting turned down for a job or something along those lines. Also, I think it's likely that as time goes on and society progresses, children of each successive generation will be more unprepared for life's rejection than the last as society shelters them from the harsh reality of life. For this reason, I believe this is a very valuable resource for people nervous or scared of rejection. Jia discusses how to turn rejection to your advantage, which is an extremely useful life skill.
In this TED Talk Jia Jiang talks about his history with rejection.First he talks about an experience in first grade in which his teacher bought gifts,and when one of the forty kids was complimented the child could get their gift and sit down.Mr.Jiang was one of three children who didn't get complimented and had to get his present without a compliment.This experience stayed with Mr.Jiang for his whole life(so far at least) and greatly influenced his reactions to rejection.As he later says "I felt there was this constant battle between the fourteen year old and the six year old" every time he wanted to make a proposal or do something new.In order to conquer his rejection, Mr.Jiang looked on Google for something to help him defeat his fear of rejection.He came across the website rejectiontherapy.com which was created by a Canadian entrepreneur(Jason Comely).Rejection therapy is a game that involves recording yourself purposefully causing rejection and then reflecting and desensitizing yourself from the rejection for thirty days. From the rejections Mr.Jiang came to realize that he can't run from any rejections and learned to reason and negotiate instead of running away.Mr.Jiang's first few days included asking a security guard for a hundred dollars,asking for a "burger refill", and asking for Olympic doughnuts.On the first day he got rejected and ran.The next day he attempted to negotiate for a "burger refill" and was somewhat successful. Then on the third day the baker at the bakery actually got him olympic doughnuts.This made Mr.Jiang famous,but he still continued his "100 Days of Rejections" into a opportunity for research.Mr.Jiang continually asked a professor at the University of Texas if he could teach a class.After the third time the professor was impressed and let him teach a class.This experience taught Mr.Jiang that if he just asks for something and is persistent,he could accomplish his goals.Mr.Jiang uses some of the most inspiring people in modern history such as Martin Luther King Jr., Mahatma Gandhi, and Nelson Mandela to prove that rejection is something you must not succumb to.This TED talk was truly inspiring as it has a personal feel to it through Mr.Jiang's story.The TED talk is easy to relate to as I have often let the fear of rejection control my life,whether it being not asking for help from a friend or teacher, stopping myself from trying to make a new friend, or backing out of starting a conversation.When I was 7 years old my teacher asked a question,and I answered the question and was wrong.The rejection terrified me and from then on until recently I was always quiet and rarely answered questions because of this rejection.Mr.Jiang's story has inspired me to stop being afraid of rejection and to attempt to do tings that I was afraid of before.
i really enjoyed watching this TED talk because it allowed me to have a more positive outlook on rejection. Rejection has always been a topic that many individuals avoid discussing, mainly because of embarrassment and disappointment. However, after watching this video im sure many others and i have learned that rejection should be embraced, in order to make further progress. I now know that i should use my small failures to push me towards great success. I think it is wonderful that Jia was able to turn one of his biggest fears into a major accomplishment, by not only helping himself, but leading others to success as well.
This TED talk really drives a point which many people face, and that's the fear of rejection, which is often quite negatively regarded. I have watched many TED talks, but none quite like this one. Jia Jiang is a very talented entrepreneur who did a superb job with the rejection tests that he faced and this will inspire many people to stop dwindling on the websites that tell you, as Jia stated, "don't take it personally, just overcome it." Jia's 100 days is very inspiring to the way people look at rejection, and to not be affected much by rejection. Instead of looking at rejection in a negative way, Jia persevered through countless rejections and became so used to it, due to his tests, he made a positive change in his life and he became less fearful of rejection and more open to the world. This can be translated to not only Jia but many others and that is to always persevere through rejection, and success will come over time. A good example of this would be Thomas Edison. His inefficient plans for light bulbs were denied over and over again until he was finally able to perfect his light bulb to be efficient enough for use. If Edison was not persevering past his rejections of inefficient light bulbs, then what would he have been remembered for? This is exactly why it is so important for people to start overcoming the anxiety that always seems to tag along with rejection, and turn that anxiety into fuel from rejection to keep you persevering like many leaders and politicians (some Jia stated) including Martin Luther King Jr. (whose birthday is today) & Mahatma Gandhi. If they accepted defeat, after the Governments they were going against denied them of what they advocated for, they would not have gone down in history. Thomas Edison stated "Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time," and this clearly shows the attitude that Jia is pushing in this TED talk, in which the fear of rejection forces us to give up, but the correct way to look at it is that rejection should not be dreaded and should fuel you to persevere and continue until you have achieved success.
Rejection is a topic that sparks fear into the minds of all who experience it. It is something that we as students especially are prone to feel constant anxiety towards. While not a very controversial issue, the subject of rejection is not one that is brought up in too many conversations as it may cause awkwardness, judgement, and rumors to spread among peers. However, I feel that Jia Jiang's solution to rejection, being that one should stay engaged, build trust, and turn "no" into "yes," can transform our perceptions about rejection from a curse, to an opportunity. At first, I thought that Jia Jiang's experiment of being rejected for 100 days was a bold one, but after seeing his point of view, I believe that he is telling viewers that his experiment was nothing out of the ordinary. It should not be considered "scary" to ask questions to others, and rejection should not stand as an immovable obstacle between us, and what we want to achieve. Jia Jiang's approach to rejection, that is keeping it humorous and light-hearted, was one that I felt was effective in conveying his message that rejection is also a topic that shouldn't be taken too seriously. It is often the fear of asking questions and getting rejected that prevents many people from achieving what they want or need in life. I feel that his career choice in entrepreneurship pairs perfectly with his rejection therapy philosophy, especially in such a competitive business world where his success is heavily based on the options of others. However, Jia Jiang's most compelling argument in my opinion was his allusion to famous historical figures of the past such as Martin Luther King Jr., Nelson Mandela, and Jesus Christ, who have all similarly faced public rejection and still stood strong in pushing forth their ideals. Ergo, Jia Jiang's main argument that rejection can be utilized as an ally rather than an adversary, is one that I believe can revolutionize our current socially anxious society.
Rejection is something that everybody has endured in one way or another. It is common for people to shy away from rejection and try to avoid it at all costs. This is seen in in many scenarios, even as small as being afraid to answer a question incorrectly. This Ted Talk shows that rejection can be used as a positive although often seen as a negative. People can use rejection to improve and learn from their mistakes. As long as people don't back away from rejection, they can find a way to achieve what they are striving for by using the rejection as a positive. Overall people should stand up to rejection and not back down to it. Rejection is a gift as long as you use it as one. It can help people grow and get closer to their goals.
This video by TED is very motivational and inspiring in my eyes. I have learned to be the best version of myself in everything that I do. Whether that be school, sports, relationships with others, etc. He taught me that rejection is hard to deal with and the feeling of it is consuming. Everyone goes through the feeling of rejection at some point in their life, even if you try to avoid it. The feeling of rejection is frightening in situations as if everyone in the room is judging you. He taught me that once you go through the feeling many times, even though the first time is the hardest, you can get through it. Instead of avoiding rejection, it'll help you in one way or another in your life. It'll teach you to strive for your goals harder, learn from your mistakes, and make you stronger as a person.
*by jia jang